by Chennai based K.B.Gopalakrishnan

11th OCTOBER,2008- 1:14 PM

I used to be afraid of children because my child hood was traumatic. So much of fights and chaos was there in my childhood days. I use to ask myself will I bring up children nicely with out any problems. I used to ask mothers who had successful kids about some formula or methods they worked out. I was astonished with the answers that came out. This essay is the compilation of the answers I got from the great mother whom I met.

I touch their holy feet mentally for giving me astounding insights.

I pray for my children – she had 3 sons and I asked her how all of them have become successful. She told me the secret of her success “I knew managing three children was beyond my ability. So I used to pray god that these children are yours I am just a keeper. Please guide me.”. No wonder all 3 sons made huge success in life. One lady challenged me and said “I knew a man who will recite Ramayana and end with pataabhsiekam. what will his son would have become?” I said with out even thinking” king “. He is working as a top level manager in a multinational company.

Never speak of ill of other people children said another mother “Many people tend to feel great and put down other’s ability. Slowly I realized that every one is good and kind with their children. Some of them have limitations there fore speaking ill of other people children make my children look negative. what goes out comes back”.

Some of other observation which makes some great parents are as follows.

• When I hit them I ask sorry to god.

• I make them take the blessing of all elders who come home.

• I teach them to pray and respect every thing in life.

• I under play their ability in front of other parents.

• When ever some one appreciates I tend say it gods grace and appreciate other person child also.

• The more one fight at home more problematic children will become. So I make peace with husband.

• I project every day for 5 minutes that they will happy successful loving understanding with me.

• I align them with good friends as whom they meet is what they become.

• I realized as a parent I can spend but to bring good children requires god’s grace.

• A good teacher halves your work in the house.

• Teacher and friends influence my children more than me.

• They do not listen when we do not live by advise what we give them.

• What we do they follow not we talk.

• Look in to their eyes and speak.

• They respond to love and are very sensitive and psychically very tuned.

• I learn from them.

• I try to avoid fitting them with engineer and MBA if god creates variety .

• I see them as souls and not as children then it is easy to work with them.

• I do not have long term plans just yearly plans.

• Doing public relations in my child school helps a lot.

• They are mirrors if I listen to them they listen, if I love them they love back, if I hate them they hate me. They are just great mirrors.